Impingement and Abandonment

Each moment in a person’s life is an experience, one that is only and uniquely experienced by oneself.

Each experience we have impacts us in some way, whether it be quite subtle or profound. The variety of ways we may be impacted is countless.

There is a multitude of impossible binds we may find ourselves in again and again, especially during development, which tend to leave a lasting mark long into adulthood.

Certain repetitive experiences of impossible binds throughout childhood can pave the way for the development of excruciating and complex shackles that bind us in our adult lives; that interfere with our getting to live the lives we want to live.

For now, I shall ponder one such shackle; such bind; such relentless suffering:

What is one to do when completely opposing fears have become crystalized in that person’s interpersonal experiential world after the continuous re-experiencing of such opposing forces? How can one do anything but run endlessly from one side to the other and back again when all that has been experienced thus far is one extreme or the other, such as: impingement / engulfment / oppression on one end and abandonment / aloneness / cold painful isolation on the other?

And do others see this particular bind as often as I do?

How does this allow or disallow the creation of fulfilling relationships in adulthood?

And what might happen if real curious awareness of these binds could be brought about? What might occur after a person gains awareness of this prison they have been made to live in? What might become possible?

We cannot predict. However, what often shows up is a new opportunity for more expansive life experiences.

I never tire of the opportunity to see what unfolds in those uncharted waters.

Dr. Amie Love Callon